Long time ago, many of our grandparents and parents married so young and very early. Well, for some reason, the world is not yet overpopulated and less demand of supplies. Fast-forward, people are increasing mostly married early 30’s or 40’s and there is nothing wrong with that. Everyday things are changing. New technology is updating, new products are being introduced and so forth.
In some countries or even in a small town as you noticed, younger people married so early for some socio-economic reason, afraid of being alone or simply a cultural thing and a reason that they believe that it is what it is that our life is destined to get married and have a family in the end.
Living in a developed country like in the UK where culture is diverse. In the contemporary world, people are more openminded to many things happening around and become more self- aware of what is more important nowadays and what needs to be done in a certain way not to compromise their happiness. Don't get me wrong, I am not against being with someone in your life. It is beautiful and amazing to be with someone to share life with. I am not even promoting singleness for the rest of your life but it is a personal choice.
For some people, it is questionable that you are single. They may see you as lonely, broken, not successful, bad character or worst being told not lucky enough, and the most common reasons I heard are; being beautiful is hard to find someone or having a high standard so lower them down. I always laugh these reasons from low standard people even if they live in a big city as if their minds are still accustomed as to where they were born and lived in ancient times. Life by far is evolving so as our minds I suppose.
This is the reason why I wanted to write this article to open our minds to understand and to have a reflection to the unforeseen life of being single and it often misunderstood by many and for one, I have been asked for many of those close-minded people.
· Being single for the time being, for example, have a greater chance to know yourself more and better. More opportunity to learn and grow in a personal level. What makes you tick and happy and how you set the tone for your self and eventually be ready in a relationship.
· Being single has more chance to do things for yourself and discover your talents, abilities, capacity to do things in life without a partner. You are becoming more self-aware that there are things you can do by yourself and you never expected that to happen.
· Being single has more time to take care of yourself. Level up your self-care for proper hygiene to clean your face and your body regularly with affordable products that suit your budget or some DIY home remedy. This is very essential to us whether single or not.
· Being single has more time to read books, study more for personal and professional growth. Study a new language is a great way especially living in a diverse city not to mention its globally competitive.
· Single people are being cautious as to whom they share their life with. They are working hard for themselves to be a better person and not lowering their standards to be level down with someone they cant complement with to each other.
· Single people have past and traumas that they don’t want to happen it again for the sake of being someone. They are not into rushing things.
· Single people are picky and prefer to stay single if they can’t find what they are looking for.
· Single people are mostly introverts and is not an issue for them to stay that way as they knew how to enjoy their own company.
· Single people are flexible in terms of understanding of many things in life. They tend to see things in a different angle or just simply observing things, after all, not everything you see needs a reaction.
· Single people are busy building their happiness within and not blaming the outside world.
· Single people are happy people because they don’t mind what others are saying why they are single because they can manage themselves so why bothered to question them if you see them settling themselves. You might question yourself why you ask?
· Single people are clever. In a way not to settle themselves with someone just for the sake of settling.
· Single people are not afraid of being alone. They used to live off being alone and been doing loads of things by themselves and manage to live this way and able to live the life they wanted so for them it's not a big deal to live in a single life as long as they are living peacefully with a sense of self-fulfilment.
There are more things that you are not aware of about single people. Do you think they are not attractive or nobody likes them? You are wrong. For one, it is a personal choice. The universe does not have the rule that everyone should end up to have a partner in life. Everyone could have a partner but not everyone wants to have a partner and not everyone should have a partner. If that makes sense.
We should all remember that we all have reasons and purposes why we want to be single for now because not all in a relationship are all happy and contented. We need to complete ourselves as a single person before letting someone get access to our life. Having someone with you is also a hard work. Each human being moulded with different experiences and perception in life not to mention, different principles. To those criticising single people, darling, please check yourself if you are fully happy, contented and living purposely well in life. After all, it is a choice and it depends on your personality too.
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